We have gained a lot of equality with the 19th Amendment, but it would seem that we still have a long way to go.
When you are going through a Divorce there isn’t always the same “equality” that we as women know we deserve.
It took decades of tireless effort and hell-raising. The Seneca Falls Convention happened in 1848. The women who pushed and prodded and protested and paraded in the intervening years faced fierce opposition. You can see some of the mocking, unfathomably stupid postcards produced in response to their demands at Collector’s Weekly. This piece from the Library of Congress relates the scene at the 1913 Women’s Suffrage Parade in D.C., which drew marchers from all over the country. It sounds terrifying, frankly:
There are so many things to think about when you are going through or preparing for Divorce. We want to believe that it will work out easily, but that is not always the case.
Be sure that you have someone working on your behalf – a reputable attorney who knows what she is doing…..
Division of property, also known as equitable distribution, is a judicial division of property rights and obligations between spouses during divorce. It may be done by agreement, through a property settlement, or by judicial decree.
When I went through my own divorce in 2013, I was so glad that my attorney was as knowledgeable as she was. One of my concerns was exactly that – how to “fairly” and “equitably” divide things up. We had been married almost 33 years, so I knew that I should receive spousal support. But of course the EX didn’t want to share his income and wanted to fight me tooth and nail. One detail that my attorney shared with me was that he could fight and take me to court – or he could work with me on a settlement. She told me that once I had served my EX with the divorce papers, she would file a stipulation as per the law, (Sargent v. Sargent), which would require HIM to be responsible to pay ALL attorney fees!! And she said that she was being “conservative,” and if we were to continue battling in court it would be a minimum of $25,000. EACH in attorney’s fees, that the EX would have to pay.
It definitely made me feel better to know that I had options — I started to feel more positive — that I would get through this entire process.
Having gone through this and come out on the other side a much stronger and confident woman has shown me that I can do it! And you can too. If you have more questions about preparing for and going through your own divorce, perhaps we can help.
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